Coping with Trying Times – Having One of THOSE Days

Today has been one of those days.  You know the days – don’t you?  One of THOSE days when you are coping with trying times.

The kind when I wake up thirty minutes before the kids are to be up to meditate and mid-mantra my four year old is snuggled next to me after I’ve been on my mat for only 10 minutes.

One of those days, when I have to constantly remind myself that I am important and I do matter because right now I’m feeling down on myself.

One of those days when I need some extra encouragement. (To say the least)

One of those days when I have to remember just WHY I’M here and WHY I do this.

Yelp, one of those days.

So in coping with trying times how do we acknowledge the emotional mess that is going on AND continue on with our day anyway? (After all I don’t know about you, but I don’t get paid time off for being in a bad mood)

Here are some of the things that help me dig myself out of the emotional ditch.

1.  I listen to inspiring music.

It is so easy (I mean SO easy) to start to hang out in that dark and lonely place of emotion when you listen to music that rehashes those dark and lonely feelings.

So instead, when I’m coping with trying times I consciously choose to listen to music that inspires me.  It may be Gospel, Contemporary Christian or New Age music.  It could even be secular music with an empowering and uplifting message.

The point is to keep my head and my vibration high.

2.  I stop talking/writing about it

Yes my natural inclination is to write when I’m having one of those days filled with my negative thoughts.

But often I find that when I write about how I’m feeling (especially if it’s an old recurring feeling) I just continue to go in circles.

The hardest thing to do when you are feeling down in the dumps is to affirm that all is well and life is good.

Intellectually it is just difficult.

But God assures us that ALL IS WELL no matter what the situation looks like to our human eyes.

So no matter how I feel, I remind myself that I am loved, that I am important, that I have purpose and that all is well.

3.  I recruit the prayer warriors.

I have absolutely no shame in asking people that I trust to pray for me.  There have been times in the past that I just huddled in isolation praying my little prayers in a dark corner by myself.

But now I will ask someone to pray for me.

I don’t burden the person with my gory life details (unless we’re really close friends of course) but I give a brief overview and gratefully send them on their merry prayer way.

4.  I sit with the pain

The first reaction most of us have to being in pain and coping with trying times is to do whatever we can to avoid feeling the way we feel.

But maybe God is trying to teach us something through the pain. Maybe, if we pay attention to it, and fully experience our negative feelings then we will come through the experience more aware and stronger than we were before.

So I am learning to sit with the discomfort.  Just as I can sit and bear through the discomfort of hunger when I’m fasting. I can also do the same through my painful emotions, understanding that His grace is sufficient and the pain is only temporary.

What do you do when you are having one of those days where you are coping with trying times?

About Keya

Keya Williams is a mother of three and Yoga Lifestyle Consultant. She teaches working moms practical strategies to to juggle life & kids without burning out.
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2 Responses to Coping with Trying Times – Having One of THOSE Days

  1. Sleeping Mom says:

    When I have a bad day, I talk to my husband about it. I’ve learned a lot about listening from him (it’s a skill I think!) because he really just lets me talk, and in the end, helps me see things clearly and assures me that all will work out somehow.

    I usually write about it too, but sometimes like you said, there are just some things that are too difficult or frustrating to write about. In my journal, I just write, “That lady that I had to deal with? She was terrible and I’ll leave it at that.” Haha.

    Hope your days get better!

    • Keya says:

      Talking to your spouse is a great idea! I don’t know why I over-look doing that. My husband is actually really logical and has a way of offering clarity as well!

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